Balance & Wellbeing – Guest Post

by Erin, The $5 Dinner Mom on May 13, 2010

Damien gets to the heart of a struggle of many of us…and his words ring true.  I always seem to be “balancing many projects,” and just like those cups in the photo,  if one falls, they all fall! This is one of the very reasons that I took “off” last week…to maintain the balance!

Balance and Wellness – It is essential to living life well.

Being in the “game” of freebies, free stuff and saving money online for the past two years, I have spent countless hours on the Internet, updating websites and searching for new free stuff, trying to build traffic and optimize my site for Google. Taking some time to reflect recently, a stark truth and realization hit me.

For the amount of time I was spending on the site, was I achieving what I was meant to be doing with the website?

The fundamental question that needed to be answered, why am I running a website? When I sat down and thought deeply about this, I knew I was in this to make a side income and whilst that does not make my intentions any less noble I found myself realizing that I was spending more time working on the site, basically doubling my time working on top of a 9-5 day job. The notion behind starting a site was so I could be financially independent and spend more time with my family was now becoming a distant reality.

It is so easy to get caught up with “doing” things, writing emails, developing advertisement, communicating with other webmasters which takes time, but what is really important in life? In the bible in Ecclesiastes, it states that there is a “time for everything under the sun” and I truly believe that. Whether or not you believe in God, there is a fundamental truth and principle that we can all take into account living our lives.

We need to be still and reflect and not be on the go all the time.

To live without relationships is not living at all. Money isn’t the be all and end all of everything. Of course I would dearly love more people to visit my site, but if it’s at the cost of my relationship with my family and friends then I gain nothing. In fact I go into negative and I am worse off for it. My encouragement to you today is that saving money, being thrifty and getting things for free is great fun, but if it takes up more time than it should and replaces the relationships that need developing, then switch off the computer and spend some real quality time with the ones you love.

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Saidah @ AProverbswife.com May 13, 2010 at 10:34 am

Balance seems to be the topic of the year. I think women can be especially vulnerable to the “do it all” syndrome. We want to help everyone and if we just post one more deal we will have helped all of mankind.

As a Christian blogger I have found it especially helpful to pray without ceasing regarding what I should post and when I should be blogging. God is a revealer of all things even our hidden lust and emotions. We all secretively and openly desire high numbers for our blogs and even higher earnings, but if we are not careful we can gain these things but lose out on the more excellent rewards.

I’d rather have the support, love and attention of my 5 family members rather than 5,000,000 subscribers. If I have to give up the 5 for the 5,000,000 I’ll pass.

This is a great topic and one worth discussing.

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Mary at Deep South Dish May 13, 2010 at 11:30 am

Nice post. I think that finding balance has been the age old issue with women for hundreds of years. We are always so busy thinking of and caring for others, we forget ourselves and our own needs – mentally, physically and emotionally.

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Megean May 13, 2010 at 12:04 pm

Great Post! I struggle with balance, I am a web-developer and graphic designer, so the majority of my day is spent staring into my computer monitor. I find myself once again at the computer when I get home, it drives my husband crazy! Lately, I have been trying to steer clear of my home computer unless it is a necessity.

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wanda May 13, 2010 at 4:21 pm

Great point!
I don’t have a blog of “income” status. But I find myself wishing that I did and still hanging out waaaaay too much online.
What starts out innocent…..can quickly get out of hand.

Don’t even get me going about Facebook. That site is comparable to “crack”!
No kiddin!
:)

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Julie May 13, 2010 at 4:27 pm

Great post! I’ve struggled off and on about weather I want to really grow my blog or just keep it simple with less readers. I decided earlier this year that I would rather spend the extra time with my family and keep my blog as more of a hobby.

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damien May 16, 2010 at 10:01 am

Thanks for the response guys. I am encouraged that others are thinking along the same lines. When we take the much bigger picture or the “God” picture into perspective, then I find that what I do is so trivial yet I fuss over it. We only have to go back to January and the Haiti crisis where things were put back into perspective for so many of us.
Keep up the great work and continue to build quality relationships with as many people as you can! It’s the only way this world becomes a better place.

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