I *may* have mentioned that I’m not into resolutions. Resolutions don’t seem to hold as much “authority” as goals do. Maybe it’s the media making light of them, or our reluctance to stick to them…for whatever reason. I prefer goals. Goals that are SMART. Things that, once accomplish, I can cross of my list!
(Type A much?!)
I thought I’d share a few of my personal and professional goals for this new year. In this post, I’ll share a couple of my personal and parenting goals for 2011.
Transition Tyler to a sippy cup. We have been having trouble with Tyler and getting him to gain weight. After a few difficult weeks back in November and number of different tests and procedures, we figured out the culprit (a faulty sphincter between his stomach and esophagus) of his feeding issues. There’s nothing that can be done for it, so we just keep pushing the calories. We have him on a special, higher cal formula to help him put on the pounds, but he still drinks from a bottle. Which is fine with me…as it’s working and he’s getting the calories he needs. But eventually he needs to switch over to a sippy cup, so I’m putting this goal so it’s in the forefront of my mind as we continue to work with him and help him gain weight.
Therapeutic Listening with Ryan. Ryan was born with a Chiari malformation and one of the symptoms is sensory integration dysfunction and auditory processing difficulty/disorder. Ryan has been in occupational therapy for over 3 years, and we recently moved towards a more targeted approach in his therapy. We are now doing therapeutic listening…which requires 1 hour a day, split into 2 30 minute “sessions.” He has to listen to a special CD for 30 minutes at a time. The goal (and challenge) is to make that happen on a daily basis. The challenge comes for me in looking ahead at our day and figuring out when we can fit this into our schedule and routine each day.
Focused reading time with Ryan. He is learning to read and needs lots of time and practice with level 1 and level 2 readers. My hope is that we can do his reading time just after his therapeutic listening time. My hope!
Articulation practice with Charlie. Work on articulation in his speech…supplement what they are doing at school, at home! Charlie also has a Chiari malformation and one of the other common troubles with a Chiari is speech and articulation issues. The nerves that innervate the back of the throat don’t always work properly because of the Chiari pressing on the spinal cord…and in Charlie’s case, it is causing him to have trouble making the “k”, “hard c”, and “g” sounds. And by having trouble, I mean…he can’t make them at all. He substitutes “t” and “d” for those sounds. (Which is perfectly normal for a 2 year old, but not an almost 4 year old.) So he says things like “tootie” for cookie, and “dam tater” for graham cracker. So we have to break down these words into simple syllables and exaggerate the sounds, while pressing on his voice box in his neck, hoping that his nerves and brain can “rewire” the pathways and he can learn to make these sounds. It’s a slow process…we’ve made no progress in the last year of trying…but we’ll keep at it!
Brothers. The boys. Oh the boys. They are busy, they are rowdy and they are aggressive. They are great brothers to each other, sweet in some moments, wrestling in others. But I don’t understand them at all! My goal this year is to better understand boys, their relationship with each other, how to raise them as individuals and as a “band of brothers,” and the best way s to teach them character, respect and responsibility…through reading a few books and talking with other moms of boys who have been there, done that.
Better QUALITY time in Scripture. If I try to have my quiet time in the morning, I’m usually interrupted with “Mooooom, can I get up yet?”…and if I try to have my quiet time in the afternoon, I’m interrupted by the dryer buzzer going off or a baby nap cut short! My goal is to find that perfect time during the day for this quiet time that I desperately need every day…after breakfast, during “independent play” time, or during the kids’ bathtime (Steve usually does bath time, giving me a few moments of peace at the end of a loud and busy day!). I’ll find it…I know I will!
Ask my husband out on dates. I have generally thought of the “asking out on dates” concept to be the man’s job. I like that my husband still “courts me” even though we are married. But who’s to say that I can’t do the same and ask him out! I think it’s important for me to do the same for him!
Set up (and stick to) the “playroom store.” Just before Christmas we did a playroom purge, if you will…preparing for the onslaught of Christmas gifts and toys. The grandparents in our family are extremely generous and love to shower the boys with gifts. Lots and lots of gifts. Knowing that was coming, I was diligent about making room for “the new.” As I took toys out of the playroom, I noticed something remarkable. There were fewer messes, the boys actually put the toys back where they belong without prompting and they played more creatively, both independently and with each other. As Steve and I reflected on this, we decided that the “less is more” phenomenon had taken over and was having such a positive effect on the boys. I told this with a girlfriend in my Bible study, and she shared with me the “playroom store” concept…which I promptly decided to set up after Christmas. The basic idea is…your kids get a set number of toys to have “out” in the playroom. With the rest of your toys, you set up a store on some shelves and trade out the toys every few days. I’m planning on leaving the “trading day” up to the boys…having them remind me that it’s trading day. We have 2 sets of shelves that we can use for the “store” and I think that the boys will enjoy having less clutter to deal with, and having the independence and responsibility of deciding when they want a “trading day.” I have visions of them asking for a “trading day” every day…and if that starts to happen, then we’ll set up a system on our fridge family calendar. I’m really looking forward to this system! My goal is to have it in place and “running” by the end of January. (Because I’m traveling so much at the start of January for the second cookbook, it will have to wait a few weeks!)
Tomorrow, I’ll share my professional/blogging goals, as well as our financial goals f0r 2011! Stay tuned…